friendship check-up time, venetian interior by sargent, proud to have committed war crimes

5 Signs It’s Time to Kick Your Friendship to the Curb.

1. It’s one-sided. All relationships have a natural ebb and flow to them when it comes to giving and receiving love. This giving comes in the form of listening, making the effort to get together, spending resources on the friendship, you get the idea. Most harmonious relationships work toward a balance; we want to give AND receive. The sign that a friendship is becoming toxic and out of balance is when this give and take becomes overly one-sided. Examples of this include when you’re always the one to make the calls, text, say hello on Facebook/email, ask for the girls-night, do the driving, pay the tab etc.

Gorman also gets into honesty and genuineness by way of withholding more and more when the friendship should be going in the direction of more openness as it progresses. Sometimes people think being honest means ramping up the criticism. She than moves on to friends being overly critical. People should realize that it is a balancing act. Finding that place where you’re honest, but not brutal. Most people take joshing, ribbing and kidding well, but not criticism. If a supposed friend has not bothered to learn where the line is that is another sign the friendship needs some candid discussion or a parting. One thing that Gorman does not  examine is the unequal friendships. Ones where one person dominates the other and the reverse, where one person seems to want to be dominated. I notice these a lot. I can only guess that such relationships serve some subconsciousness need. Though that doesn’t mean they’re healthy.

Venetian Interior 1880-1882. By John Singer Sargent. Oil on canvas. Currently at the Carnegie Museum of Art, Pittsburgh, PA.

George W. Bush, 43rd president of the United States, confesses to being a war criminal, Bush’s Glib Waterboarding Admission Sparks Outrage

“Yeah, we waterboarded Khalid Sheikh Mohammed,” Bush told a Grand Rapids audience Wednesday, of the self-professed 9/11 mastermind. “I’d do it again to save lives.”

But, Irvine said: “When he decided to do it the first time, he launched the nation down a disastrous road, and we will continue to pay dearly for the damage his decision has caused.

[  ]…James P. Cullen, a retired brigadier general in the United States Army Reserve Judge Advocate General’s Corps, told HuffPost that the net effect of Bush’s remarks — and former Vice President Cheney’s before him — is “to establish a precedent where it will be permissible to our enemies to use waterboarding on our servicemen in future wars.

[   ]…Matthew Alexander, the pseudonymous former Air Force interrogator and author of “How To Break A Terrorist” e-mailed HuffPost that Bush’s statement “is de facto approval of the deaths of hundreds, if not thousands, of American soldiers in Iraq who were killed by foreign fighters that Al Qaida recruited based on the President’s policy of torture and abuse of detainees.

“At least now we know where the blame for those soldiers’ deaths squarely belongs. President Bush’s decision broke with a military tradition dating back to General George Washington during the Revolutionary War and the consequences are clear: Al Qaida is stronger and our country is less safe.”

I sympathize with Dan about writing simple headlines. What he means is that rational people with a conscience and respect for the law are outraged. Millions of people probably feel that Bush is a hero. There are never been any evidence produced by Bush, Dick Cheney or Elizabeth Cheney that torturing KLM produced any actionable intelligence which saved lives. KLM talked plenty. Most of what he said was stories he made up to stop the torture. Dubya also recently claimed that invading countries was good for the economy. Except for the millionaires that dabbled in defense contractor stock we all know how that ended. While professional clinical psychologists, and rightly so, would not make a public declaration that Bush is a sociopath ( lack of empathy and an amoral view toward suffering of others), it is fair to wonder after these  latest revelations.

Conservatives are not outraged that Bush has admitted tacit responsibility for endangering the troops or  thinks the economy is best ran on a foundation of sadism. No, they are outraged that one of world’s most beloved philanthropist, artist and musicians Paul McCartney made a small joke about Bush, NOTE TO GOP: LET IT BE….

But the right seems surprisingly worked up about this. Not only did National Review run  a couple of angry items, House Minority Leader John Boehner (R-Ohio), the man who intends to be Speaker of the House this time next year, went so far as to issue a public statement, calling on Paul McCartney to “apologize to the American people for his conduct.”

Human Events, Boehner and other far right autocrats do not think Bush should apologize with the millions of lives battered by conservative policies, but McCartney should apologize for recognizing Bush’s and conservatism’s tragic legacy. Good to know the cons still have the same moral vacancy they’ve always had.